“Ohmigosh, I was SOO bad this weekend. Better make it up with a workout and clean eating today!”
I’ve heard this sentiment SO many times. I’ve also heard the opposite, with my clients telling me that they’re going to a social event but promise to “be good” when they are there.
The food choices you make do NOT determine the value of your character.
When we say we are “bad” for eating something off plan, this implies that we are failures, we are weak, and that we need to do penance to get back on track.
Penance usually comes in the form of extreme diets or excessive cardio, both of which only fuel your hunger and a negative, self-loathing mindset. Rarely are lasting (positive) results achieved out of punishment and force.
On the other hand, I don’t want you to view yourself as “good” even if you are making all the right food choices for your goals. What happens if you DO have a slip up, even a minor one? What happens when the circumstances of your life suddenly change? What other facets of your life are being sacrificed in order for you to stay “good”? Are you “good” if you eat every meal alone, chained to your Tupperware and avoiding your friends, family, and any potential temptation in order to maintain your “goodness”?
I’m not just calling for more self-love because I want you to feel happier in your own skin at ANY size (though I do). I also want you to be a healthy and vibrant and active person!
I want you to stay away from moral judgments like “good” and “bad” because that type of thinking can dating a girl who is connectedto an ex family directly sabotage your results and progress.
Research has shown that when you are reminded of your own prior moral achievements, you are actually click here to read less likely to then act in line with those values. For example, in one study, people who were told exactly how much they donated to charity in the previous year and then asked to contribute more money gave significantly less those who weren’t reminded of their previous generosity.
This is crazy, right? Once we’re shown that we have already been “good” enough, we think we’re immediately off the hook and can do whatever we want! Hah!
Unfortunately, dietary changes are only really transformative and successful when they are repeated. A LOT. Consistency is king. You can eat the absolute most healthy, most fat-loss-perfect meals (or even eat nothing at all!) for a single day, but in the long run you won’t even notice the impact of that anomaly on your scale or on your waistline.
(The nice alternative to this, though, is that one day of over-the-top, totally excessive caloric consumption won’t make or break your overall success….But just ONE.)
So if we continue to use language like “I’ve been so good today!” in reference to our eating habits, we are SETTING OURSELVES UP for poor decisions in the future.
Do you ever find it harder to make healthy choices on weekends and late nights? J
We usually reflect and judge at the end of the day, or at the end of the week. If we’ve been good all day or all week, then it must be time to kick back and eat what we want, right?
I want you to practice catching yourself using words like “good” and “bad” in reference to your diet or food choices, and see if you can rephrase. There are no “good” foods and “bad” foods, and you are neither “good” nor “bad” because of the foods that you eat. There are simply foods and actions that bring you closer to your goals and foods that don’t. As long as you make most of your choices from the former category most of the time, you will finally see lasting progress and change in the right direction.
Always here to help,
PS – Let me know in the comments below if this something that you do! Do you find that your negative language promotes more negative self-talk? I’d love to know!